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Ultimately life is very simple. It is so simple that most of us refuse to accept it.
The funny thing about life is that, to realize its simplicity, one has to go through the complexity in order to find the simplicity.
Here’s a list of some complexities and simplicities that I have been exploring during the past years:
- It is not by adding, but by reducing, that we find happiness.
- It is not by dispersing, but by focusing, that we find clarity.
- It is not by hoarding more experiences, but by peeling away the thick skin of old experiences, that makes us see our personal richness.
- It is by speaking only when we have something to say that we create true communication.
- It is by listening in full presence, without commenting or trying to advice or fix, that we give the best support.
- It is by answering to the question, and to the question only, that we give the best answer.
- It is by doing only what we have been asked for, that is the best help. (At least most of the time.)
- It is not by escaping but by feeling fully our negative feelings – but not acting them out – that we find emotional freedom and positivity.
- It is by refraining from giving too much advice – even when asked for it – that we truly respect the freedom and independence of the other person.
How would your list look like?
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